How to Detox Your Kid’s Algorithm: A 5-Day Reset Plan

I cannot emphasize enough how absolutely unprepared I feel for this particular part of my parenting journey. And I certainly didn’t plan to write this post.

But then again, I didn’t expect to find myself in a full-blown debate with my tween about an influencer accused of violence against women. Ugh.

Ok so, a while back, yup – I discovered my child was deep in conversations online, defending a well-known misogynist influencer. I won’t name him — because he doesn’t deserve the clicks — but trust me when I say: it rattled me.

My child, who I’ve raised with books, hugs, culture, and heart, was parroting some deeply concerning talking points. Insisting we “didn’t know” if this influencer had done anything wrong. Convincingly arguing he was being framed.

And I was bamboozled. Confused. Shooketh.

This influencer had never walked into my house. But through every scroll, every comment, every “recommended for you” moment, the algorithm had let him in through the side door.

I thought I had done all the right things – we had blocked inappropriate content and set screen time limits. Parental controls were in play across their devices. I taught right from wrong and monitored time online. I thought I was staying on top of their social media use.

What I hadn’t realized was that the danger wasn’t only in which social media apps they were using — it was in what the algorithms were quietly suggesting, again and again.

This influencer had never walked into my house. But through every scroll, every comment, every “recommended for you” moment, the algorithm had let him in through the side door.

What Even Is the Algorithm Anyway?

Let’s take the mystery out of the word.

An algorithm is a decision-making formula created by social media companies as part of their powerful marketing efforts. It is inside every app, browser, game, and platform your child uses.

Everywhere your child goes online, the algorithm is watching — every click, every share, every second they hover. Then the algorithm uses this data to quietly calculate exactly what to feed them next to keep them locked in longer.

And once a child starts down a content trail — the algorithms learn fast. They suggest content, recommend certain accounts, and pull kids deeper into endless feeds, without any natural stopping point.

The algorithm does not care whether your child is consuming healthy or age-appropriate content. It only cares about what will keep “users” engaged.

Think of it like this: your child clicks on a few videos his friends sends him of some funny Fortnite dances. Cool, right? Just some harmless fun. But then, the algorithm says, “Oh! Fortnite! Let’s feed them everything related.” Now their feed is full of other dance videos, which leads to Fortnite influencers, which leads to livestreams with commentary that veers into way more mature games and conversations.

Before long, something that started as a harmless interest has snowballed into a curated world — and you didn’t get to choose what or who was in it.

This isn’t always malicious. But it is unchecked.

The algorithm does not care whether your child is consuming healthy or age-appropriate content. It only cares about what will keep “users” engaged.

Why This Is a Problem — Especially for Teens and Tweens

Let’s look at a different version of that Fortnite example.

Let’s say your child clicks on a Fortnite dance video a friend sent them.
Totally harmless, right?

Except — now the algorithm feeds them endless Fortnite livestreams.

Then gaming commentary.
Then influencers who start sliding into topics like “how to find the perfect girlfriend.” Maybe a quick video about “how to find the perfect girlfriend.” The joke is simple: find a girl who loves video games as much as you do. Your kid laughs, likes the video, and keeps scrolling.

That one click, like, or view is enough for the algorithm to start building a new content trail. It begins slowly — just more videos with boys talking about dating or what they “look for” in a girl.

At first, it might sound like typical playground banter:

• “Girls who play video games are way better than the ones who don’t.”
• “If she doesn’t answer your texts right away, she’s not into you.”

Then it shifts. A little louder. A little meaner.

Now it’s:

• “Girls who don’t wear makeup clearly don’t care how they look.”
• “Real guys don’t date girls who talk too much or want attention.”
• “If she’s not putting you first, she’s not worth your time.”

The algorithm doesn’t push your child into hate all at once — it guides them there, one joke, one “tip,” one so-called opinion at a time.

Some videos go further — rating girls out of ten based on their bodies, mocking girls who are confident or outspoken, and praising girls who stay quiet, stay pretty, and make having a boyfriend their biggest life goal.

And because the algorithm works fast — especially if your kid doesn’t click away — that type of content quickly becomes the main thing they’re seeing.

Before you know it, your child’s online world — and sense of normal — has been shaped by harmful content. Not by friends, not by school, not by family — but by social media platforms that profit off outrage, insecurity, and risk taking.

Research shows social media usage — especially when it’s filled with these subtle influences — is linked to lower self esteem, distorted body image, poor mental health, and risk taking behaviour among teens.

That’s how it works. The algorithm doesn’t push your child into hate all at once — it guides them there, one joke, one “tip,” one so-called opinion at a time.

How Do You Know Your Child’s Feed Needs a Detox?

Here’s the catch: You might not notice right away.

It might not be obvious like too much screen time, angry outbursts, or tanking grades. Your kid might be more subtle. They might be prone to sarcastic comments more often. Or they will share a weird joke. Some might start to show a loss of empathy.

For me the red flag came was when my child, mid-casual conversation about a local news story of a girl assaulted at her workplace, shrugged and said:

“Well… how do we know she’s not lying?”

Wait. What?

That didn’t sound like him. That didn’t sound like anything he learned from us. I did my digging and it didn’t take much to figure out that this was language — and belief — lifted straight from social media comment sections that normalize victim-blaming and toxic gender stereotypes.

That’s when I knew it was time to take back some ground. Because if we don’t interrupt the algorithm, the algorithm will parent them for us.

A 5-Day Social Media Detox for Kids

Let’s be real: this plan isn’t coming from a perfect parent with a pristine screen-time log and a tech-free home.

I spent way too much time believing, hoping, assuming my kids weren’t really part of this whole social media thing. If you’re like me, sorry to burst your bubble but -According to Pew Research Center, today’s teens aren’t just online — they’re everywhere online. Nearly all of teens (95%) have a smartphone in their pocket, plus a desktop or laptop (88%), a gaming console (83%), and a tablet (70%) somewhere at home.

And yes, ideally, we’d all read this before our kids ever touched social media. But most of us are already in it — trying to parent through endless WiFi access, school iPads, group chats, multiple accounts, and kids who absolutely do not want us nosing around in their business.

95% of teens have smartphones, and the other 5% just haven’t told you yet. They’re online, all the time.
Let’s talk about reclaiming their feeds and their minds.

They’re tweens and teens. They crave privacy. They’re building independence. And the idea of sitting beside you to scroll through their feed might feel impossible — or like the start of an argument you don’t have the energy for.

I do get it.

This isn’t about panicking. It’s about conversations that hopefully lead to you learning your teens recognize the problems with certain content – or are open to new ideas on how to make smarter choices online.

A digital detox is for parents who know social media usage is part of life now—but don’t want to give up entirely.

It’s about reclaiming their digital space without a screaming match.
Small, doable, real steps.

Because if you’ve handed over a phone or tablet and said, “just give me a minute of peace,” but haven’t asked what’s on the other side of that screen… you may have given your peace to the internet. And the internet? The internet is trash.

But your kid is not. And it’s not too late.

5 Day Plan to Reclaim your Teen’s Social Media Feed Together

Day 1: Clean the Feed

Sit with your child.  Scroll through their favourite social media apps together (TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Discord).
No judgment—just try to learn. Get curious and try asking: “What do you like about this video?” or “Who’s this creator?” Look at what or who the app is suggesting next.

If something feels “off” click “Not Interested,” mute it, or block it. Unfollow toxic or questionable accounts. That small action teaches the algorithm what’s not welcome.

Every action helps the algorithm suggest content that’s safer, more positive, and better aligned with their well-being.

Day 2: Audit the Algorithm

Most apps have a way to check what your child has watched, liked, or followed. It’s okay if you’ve never looked — now’s your time.

Explore the menu and settings in apps like:

• YouTube
• TikTok
• Instagram

Ask open questions:

“How did you find this person?”
“What do you like about this?”
“How does this make you feel after you watch it?”

If they say, “I don’t know, it just showed up” — that’s the algorithm doing its job. Time to do yours.

Explain that the algorithm isn’t neutral. It doesn’t care what’s true or healthy. It just wants their attention.

Then remind them: they can curate – teach it what to show. Teens and tweens can click “not interested.” They can mute accounts or block profiles they don’t like or that aren’t age or content-appropriate. Your kids will also soon learn or ask for help to log into each app and make changes in settings or profile if necessary to protect their privacy and feed.

Day 3: Unplug to Rewire

Try a 24-hour break from social media.

Not forever. Not as a punishment. Just long enough for the noise to fade.

Do something low-tech or no-tech. Go outside. Cook. Watch a movie you loved as a kid – If you’re looking for inspiration, our Iconic 90s movies List is one for the ages. If you want to get out of the house, check out our list of Free and Fun things to as a Family.

Just be in the same space. They might roll their eyes. That’s fine. But they’ll notice the difference (and so will you!) — even if they don’t say it out loud.

If you’re up for it, get your screen time report after to compare. Celebrate even tiny wins.

Day 4: Rebuild Intentionally

Once the dust settles, it’s time to rebuild.

Help your child follow creators who reflect their culture, creativity, and curiosity. Show them it’s not about “wholesome” content — it’s about balanced content. Joyful. Honest. Real.

Look for accounts that revolve around something your child loves – like cooking or writing, cars or even video games – as long as the creator has positive content and moderated comments. There are plenty of positive young people, cultural storytellers, artists, coders, comedians who create solid content.

Let your teen feel like they’re finding fun again—not being punished.

Day 5: Create a Media Agreement

Not a contract. Not a consequence. A collaboration.

Talk about:

• How much time is too much time online
• What apps and websites are okay
• Whether daily limits or schedule times to use social media or devices are right for them
• When and how to unplug
• What happens if they get exposed to inappropriate content

Write it down and stick it on the fridge. Or their wall. Or their Notes app. Let it be a living thing — not a lecture.

Why A Digital Detox with Your Teen is Worth It

It may take a bit of effort and start off uncomfortable, but a digital detox is worth it.

Because the algorithm isn’t neutral – kids are exposed to harmful content before they even understand it. And… social media platforms don’t care about your child’s well-being or making safe choices —they care about views and clicks that translate into profit.

And because most parents would do anything to protect and support their child —if they just knew where to start.

Want a Checklist?

If this post felt like a lot — and it is — I’ve got you.

👉🏾 Sign up below to download the PwB Family Algorithm Reset Checklist

What’s inside:

→ More details of the step-by-step reset instructions

How to Detox Your Kid’s Algorithm: A 5-Day Reset Plan

I cannot emphasize enough how absolutely unprepared I feel for this particular part of my parenting journey. And I certainly didn’t plan to write this post.

But then again, I didn’t expect to find myself in a full-blown debate with my tween about an influencer accused of violence against women. Ugh.

Ok so, a while back, yup – I discovered my child was deep in conversations online, defending a well-known misogynist influencer. I won’t name him — because he doesn’t deserve the clicks — but trust me when I say: it rattled me.

My child, who I’ve raised with books, hugs, culture, and heart, was parroting some deeply concerning talking points. Insisting we “didn’t know” if this influencer had done anything wrong. Convincingly arguing he was being framed.

And I was bamboozled. Confused. Shooketh.

This influencer had never walked into my house. But through every scroll, every comment, every “recommended for you” moment, the algorithm had let him in through the side door.

I thought I had done all the right things – we had blocked inappropriate content and set screen time limits. Parental controls were in play across their devices. I taught right from wrong and monitored time online. I thought I was staying on top of their social media use.

What I hadn’t realized was that the danger wasn’t only in which social media apps they were using — it was in what the algorithms were quietly suggesting, again and again.

This influencer had never walked into my house. But through every scroll, every comment, every “recommended for you” moment, the algorithm had let him in through the side door.

What Even Is the Algorithm Anyway?

Let’s take the mystery out of the word.

An algorithm is a decision-making formula created by social media companies as part of their powerful marketing efforts. It is inside every app, browser, game, and platform your child uses.

Everywhere your child goes online, the algorithm is watching — every click, every share, every second they hover. Then the algorithm uses this data to quietly calculate exactly what to feed them next to keep them locked in longer.

And once a child starts down a content trail — the algorithms learn fast. They suggest content, recommend certain accounts, and pull kids deeper into endless feeds, without any natural stopping point.

The algorithm does not care whether your child is consuming healthy or age-appropriate content. It only cares about what will keep “users” engaged.

Think of it like this: your child clicks on a few videos his friends sends him of some funny Fortnite dances. Cool, right? Just some harmless fun. But then, the algorithm says, “Oh! Fortnite! Let’s feed them everything related.” Now their feed is full of other dance videos, which leads to Fortnite influencers, which leads to livestreams with commentary that veers into way more mature games and conversations.

Before long, something that started as a harmless interest has snowballed into a curated world — and you didn’t get to choose what or who was in it.

This isn’t always malicious. But it is unchecked.

The algorithm does not care whether your child is consuming healthy or age-appropriate content. It only cares about what will keep “users” engaged.

Why This Is a Problem — Especially for Teens and Tweens

Let’s look at a different version of that Fortnite example.

Let’s say your child clicks on a Fortnite dance video a friend sent them.
Totally harmless, right?

Except — now the algorithm feeds them endless Fortnite livestreams.

Then gaming commentary.
Then influencers who start sliding into topics like “how to find the perfect girlfriend.” Maybe a quick video about “how to find the perfect girlfriend.” The joke is simple: find a girl who loves video games as much as you do. Your kid laughs, likes the video, and keeps scrolling.

That one click, like, or view is enough for the algorithm to start building a new content trail. It begins slowly — just more videos with boys talking about dating or what they “look for” in a girl.

At first, it might sound like typical playground banter:

• “Girls who play video games are way better than the ones who don’t.”
• “If she doesn’t answer your texts right away, she’s not into you.”

Then it shifts. A little louder. A little meaner.

Now it’s:

• “Girls who don’t wear makeup clearly don’t care how they look.”
• “Real guys don’t date girls who talk too much or want attention.”
• “If she’s not putting you first, she’s not worth your time.”

The algorithm doesn’t push your child into hate all at once — it guides them there, one joke, one “tip,” one so-called opinion at a time.

Some videos go further — rating girls out of ten based on their bodies, mocking girls who are confident or outspoken, and praising girls who stay quiet, stay pretty, and make having a boyfriend their biggest life goal.

And because the algorithm works fast — especially if your kid doesn’t click away — that type of content quickly becomes the main thing they’re seeing.

Before you know it, your child’s online world — and sense of normal — has been shaped by harmful content. Not by friends, not by school, not by family — but by social media platforms that profit off outrage, insecurity, and risk taking.

Research shows social media usage — especially when it’s filled with these subtle influences — is linked to lower self esteem, distorted body image, poor mental health, and risk taking behaviour among teens.

That’s how it works. The algorithm doesn’t push your child into hate all at once — it guides them there, one joke, one “tip,” one so-called opinion at a time.

How Do You Know Your Child’s Feed Needs a Detox?

Here’s the catch: You might not notice right away.

It might not be obvious like too much screen time, angry outbursts, or tanking grades. Your kid might be more subtle. They might be prone to sarcastic comments more often. Or they will share a weird joke. Some might start to show a loss of empathy.

For me the red flag came was when my child, mid-casual conversation about a local news story of a girl assaulted at her workplace, shrugged and said:

“Well… how do we know she’s not lying?”

Wait. What?

That didn’t sound like him. That didn’t sound like anything he learned from us. I did my digging and it didn’t take much to figure out that this was language — and belief — lifted straight from social media comment sections that normalize victim-blaming and toxic gender stereotypes.

That’s when I knew it was time to take back some ground. Because if we don’t interrupt the algorithm, the algorithm will parent them for us.

A 5-Day Social Media Detox for Kids

Let’s be real: this plan isn’t coming from a perfect parent with a pristine screen-time log and a tech-free home.

I spent way too much time believing, hoping, assuming my kids weren’t really part of this whole social media thing. If you’re like me, sorry to burst your bubble but -According to Pew Research Center, today’s teens aren’t just online — they’re everywhere online. Nearly all of teens (95%) have a smartphone in their pocket, plus a desktop or laptop (88%), a gaming console (83%), and a tablet (70%) somewhere at home.

And yes, ideally, we’d all read this before our kids ever touched social media. But most of us are already in it — trying to parent through endless WiFi access, school iPads, group chats, multiple accounts, and kids who absolutely do not want us nosing around in their business.

95% of teens have smartphones, and the other 5% just haven’t told you yet. They’re online, all the time.  Let’s talk about reclaiming their feeds and their minds.

They’re tweens and teens. They crave privacy. They’re building independence. And the idea of sitting beside you to scroll through their feed might feel impossible — or like the start of an argument you don’t have the energy for.

I do get it.

This isn’t about panicking. It’s about conversations that hopefully lead to you learning your teens recognize the problems with certain content – or are open to new ideas on how to make smarter choices online.

A digital detox is for parents who know social media usage is part of life now—but don’t want to give up entirely.

It’s about reclaiming their digital space without a screaming match.
Small, doable, real steps.

Because if you’ve handed over a phone or tablet and said, “just give me a minute of peace,” but haven’t asked what’s on the other side of that screen… you may have given your peace to the internet. And the internet? The internet is trash.

But your kid is not. And it’s not too late.

5 Day Plan to Reclaim your Teen’s Social Media Feed Together

Day 1: Clean the Feed

Sit with your child.  Scroll through their favourite social media apps together (TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Discord).
No judgment—just try to learn. Get curious and try asking: “What do you like about this video?” or “Who’s this creator?” Look at what or who the app is suggesting next.

If something feels “off” click “Not Interested,” mute it, or block it. Unfollow toxic or questionable accounts. That small action teaches the algorithm what’s not welcome.

Every action helps the algorithm suggest content that’s safer, more positive, and better aligned with their well-being.

Day 2: Audit the Algorithm

Most apps have a way to check what your child has watched, liked, or followed. It’s okay if you’ve never looked — now’s your time.

Explore the menu and settings in apps like:

• YouTube
• TikTok
• Instagram

Ask open questions:

“How did you find this person?”
“What do you like about this?”
“How does this make you feel after you watch it?”

If they say, “I don’t know, it just showed up” — that’s the algorithm doing its job. Time to do yours.

Explain that the algorithm isn’t neutral. It doesn’t care what’s true or healthy. It just wants their attention.

Then remind them: they can curate – teach it what to show. Teens and tweens can click “not interested.” They can mute accounts or block profiles they don’t like or that aren’t age or content-appropriate. Your kids will also soon learn or ask for help to log into each app and make changes in settings or profile if necessary to protect their privacy and feed.

Day 3: Unplug to Rewire

Try a 24-hour break from social media.

Not forever. Not as a punishment. Just long enough for the noise to fade.

Do something low-tech or no-tech. Go outside. Cook. Watch a movie you loved as a kid – If you’re looking for inspiration, our Iconic 90s movies List is one for the ages. If you want to get out of the house, check out our list of Free and Fun things to as a Family.

Just be in the same space. They might roll their eyes. That’s fine. But they’ll notice the difference (and so will you!) — even if they don’t say it out loud.

If you’re up for it, get your screen time report after to compare. Celebrate even tiny wins.

Day 4: Rebuild Intentionally

Once the dust settles, it’s time to rebuild.

Help your child follow creators who reflect their culture, creativity, and curiosity. Show them it’s not about “wholesome” content — it’s about balanced content. Joyful. Honest. Real.

Look for accounts that revolve around something your child loves – like cooking or writing, cars or even video games – as long as the creator has positive content and moderated comments. There are plenty of positive young people, cultural storytellers, artists, coders, comedians who create solid content.

Let your teen feel like they’re finding fun again—not being punished.

Day 5: Create a Media Agreement

Not a contract. Not a consequence. A collaboration.

Talk about:

• How much time is too much time online
• What apps and websites are okay
• Whether daily limits or schedule times to use social media or devices are right for them
• When and how to unplug
• What happens if they get exposed to inappropriate content

Write it down and stick it on the fridge. Or their wall. Or their Notes app. Let it be a living thing — not a lecture.

Why A Digital Detox with Your Teen is Worth It

It may take a bit of effort and start off uncomfortable, but a digital detox is worth it.

Because the algorithm isn’t neutral – kids are exposed to harmful content before they even understand it. And… social media platforms don’t care about your child’s well-being or making safe choices —they care about views and clicks that translate into profit.

And because most parents would do anything to protect and support their child —if they just knew where to start.

Need a place to start?

If this post felt like a lot — and it is — I’ve got you.

👉🏾 Sign up below to download the PwB Family Algorithm Reset Checklist

What’s inside:

→ Step-by-step reset instructions

→ Red flag words and phrases to watch for

→ Platform-specific tips to clean up their scroll

→ A curated list of affirming Black creators to follow

And when you sign up, you’ll also get a 5-day email series packed with extra support, real-world examples, and simple strategies to help you put the checklist into action — one scroll, one conversation, one reset at a time.

Because reclaiming your child’s feed doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. You don’t have to do it alone.

Final Thought: You’re Not Behind

You’re here. You’re learning. You’re asking better questions. And that’s already protecting your child’s ability to think critically, build better habits, and stay connected to who they really are.

If you’re looking for more conversations or where to start with parenting our kids in the digital age we got you – start here.

You don’t have to “fix” the internet. But you can raise a kid who knows how to move through it with their head held high. One smart scroll at a time.